It always amazes me how some moms can get out of the house dressed up, hair done, make-up on and towing their spotless kids behind them. I feel happy if I brushed my teeth that morning.
Or I wonder how some moms have their home spotless, organized and pristine...dishes are clean and put away, toys are in their places, carpets are clean and dust free. I on the other hand usually find banana squished into my carpet, usually found accidentally with my bare foot.
So I wonder whether some moms just have it all together or they just hide it very well. I know for a fact that I don't have anything together, and trust me I can't hide it even if I tried.
A mother of three told me last weekend that I seemed like I was handling well being a mom of two. I told her, "Handling? I don't know. I don't know if it's handling well or just doing it because it has to be done." She nodded in agreement.
So I asked a mom of four how she does it...how she handles being home with four to care for. Her response (and I love the honesty) was that "usually when the youngest one cries, [she's] crying with her."
Ah. I see. Sometimes being a mom sucks. It's tough. It's rough. It sometimes makes you want to cry. Sometimes we just aren't at our best (or even close).
So why do we try so hard to make it seem like we've got it all together when we're really not? Is there really such thing as a "super mom?" If so, I'd like to meet her and see whether or not she actually gets any sleep. Meanwhile, I'm quite happy being "not-so-super" mom just trying to get through each day. I guess if I took the time to clean myself and my house up, I'd never get the time to spend hugging and enjoying the company of my kids. Here's to all you "not-so-super" moms out there...I think you're the best!
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one older lady told me that her house was "clean enough to be healthy and messy enough to be happy". i thought it was really neat idea that i'd never thought of - messy enough to be happy. and yeah, i've decided that showering everday is overrated and yeah, i could clean my house - but then i'd miss out on the few days i've got left of my maternity leave to enjoy being with my son. so yeah, your kids will probably never look back and appreciate how clean your house was - but they will remember the hugs and the love. ;-) you are a super mom!
honestly, you are the most in control super mom i've ever seen. you know where your priorities are: the kids. and i should know. i've been at your place like a million times before and after the second one! and i've seen A LOT of moms in my lifetime.
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